Consensual Monogamy (CM)

I think we need to talk more about "CM." By that I mean Consensual Monogamy. CM is about enthusiastic consent first and another "C", communication. CM is about both parties agreeing on their definition of monogamy for their relationship and their boundaries. CM is a relationship agreement. CM requires a "hell yes!" CM is not just being the cultural normative default blah blah. CM is intentional, communicated and agreed to. It is lived energetically. For me when people talk about CNM, I want to hear monogamy spoken about the same way, enthusiastic consent first! 

Buckets

In our culture we tend to put relationships into buckets with labels like family, friends and lovers. What if we get rid of the labels we put on the buckets? What if each relationship was its own bucket, has its own boundaries and no label at all? Boundaries could change as situations change. Relationships could constantly evolve and set their own levels. Why not get rid of the buckets? Would that be chaos? Would that be relationship anarchy? What if, perhaps, there never were any buckets? What if, perhaps, the idea of buckets was always an illusion?