Resources

Video Resources

Polyamory Experts Speak On Non-Monogamy

ReidAboutSex -"Special Arrangements" Discussion Panel

Blog Posts

Consensual Non-Monogamy: A Relationship Choice

By Joan Price, December 27, 2015 - "I'm just saying that I know many couples who stay together happily and intimately because they acknowledge that sexual exclusivity is not right for them. Let's not judge them…"

Essays

Relationship Ending Success or Failure

An essay by Dr. Elisabeth Sheff:  polyaffectivity and the existence of alternative meanings of intimate relationships that provide a way for relationships to end in one phase and begin in another, or continue across many iterations that may or may not include sexuality.

Asexuality and Polyamory: My Life is Not a Contradiction

By West Anderson, June 20, 2015 - Becoming more open to diverse forms of relationships — and to seeing that love is possible in many forms, and with many people.

The Bigger Picture of Polyamory

By Jansa, December 27, 2015 - "It’s not, in the end, about polyamory at all. It’s about human connection in whatever shape it may take."

For Lovers and Fighters

By Dean Spade (2006) - "One of my goals in thinking about redefining the way we view relationships is to try to treat the people I date more like I treat my friends — try to be respectful and thoughtful and have boundaries and reasonable expectations — and to try to treat my friends more like my dates — to give them special attention, honor my commitments to them, be consistent, and invest deeply in our futures together."

Articles

Why non-monogamy is a dangerous idea

The Gaurdian, James Norman, November 2013 - Author argues it is more than revolutionary, it is evolutionary.

Non-monogamy showed me what it really means to be with someone

The Gaurdian, Kate Iselin, December 2015 - Author talks about how she discovered what love is through discarding a model of relationships that didn't work for her and embracing non-monogamy.

Are non monogamous couples happier?

Maxim, Ali Drucker, Dec 21, 2015 - Apparently based on this study. This article examines some research alleging that in they are.

Glossaries

Gracie X's Glossary

I especially like that Gracie's glossary does not depend on sex to define emotional relationships

Books

More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamoryby Franklin Veaux, Eve Rickert, Tatiana Gill (Illustrator)

From partners, authors and practicing polyamorists Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert, comes the raw breakdown of how polyamory is possible. If you are considering an open relationship, or choosing to be polyamorous long-term, this is the beginner’s guide. Trusted by the poly community, More Than Two is entirely without judgment and sprinkled with a good dose of humor.

The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures by Dossie Easton, Janet W. Hardy

The word “slut” is thrown around so much, it’s meanings have become seemingly endless. This book twists the standardized definition and reassures you that seeking intimacy outside of your marriage doesn’t make you something worthy of derogatory terms. In this novel the authors breakdown the myths about sluthood and show you how to maintain a successful polyamorous lifestyle through open communication, emotional honesty, and safer-sex practices.

The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Familiesby Elisabeth Sheff

Many married couples flirting with the idea of opening their marriage worry first and foremost about their children. The landscape of the American marriage is changing and monogamy is no longer the only option. This book touches on “the family system” where children are aware of their parents’ arrangements. Some even having their parents’ partners living in the household. In detail, explore how polyamorous relationships come to be, grow and change, plus manage the ins and outs of daily family life.

Opening Up: A Guide To Creating and Sustaining Open RelationshipsTristan Taormino

Relationship expert and bestselling author Tristan Taormino offers a bold new strategy for creating loving, lasting relationships. Drawing on in-depth interviews with over a hundred women and men, Opening Up explores the real-life benefits and challenges of all styles of open relationships — from partnered non-monogamy to solo polyamory. With her refreshingly down-to-earth style and sharp wit, Taormino offers solutions for making an open relationship work, including tips on dealing with jealousy, negotiating boundaries, finding community, parenting and time management. Opening Up will change the way you think about intimacy.

Wide Open, by Gracie X, Published by New Harbinger Publications

At a time when society no longer imposes many sexual taboos, why is open marriage still considered beyond the pale? Written by Gracie X, Wide Open is an enthusiastic, honest, and sometimes raw account of one woman’s experience living polyamorously within the context of her average American family.